A woman married to a man with a severe disability has told critics who claim she can’t be sexually satisfied they’re very wrong.
A couple in an “interabled” relationship have revealed cruel trolls mock their relationship and sex life.
Shane Burcaw was born with spinal muscular atrophy (SMA), and has used a wheelchair since the age of two.
He met Hannah Aylward, who does not have a disability, after she reached out to him online, and the pair have been in a relationship ever since.
The couple tied the knot in September 2020, but despite their solid relationship, their romance attracts abuse and criticism, The Sun reports.
Now the couple have taken to YouTube, on an episode of StyleLikeU, to open up about their sex lives.
The video was uploaded with the caption “laughing At Your Ableist BS” and is part of a series that sees diverse individuals claim self-acceptance by stripping down to open up about style, self-image and identity.
“Often people will assume that I’m Shane’s sister or mum,” Hannah explained.
“We definitely get a lot of comments from straight men thinking that it’s not fair that I’m with Shane and that I should be with them.
“People say that I couldn’t possibly be satisfied, we get that every day.”
Shane revealed that due to his condition, men often assume that he can’t have sex, but this is not the case.
“They perceive that I can’t have sex in their very limited, missionary man f***s woman. They think that is the be all and end all of sex,” he said.
“Little do they know…”
“Our intimacy benefits from my disability and our intimacy is not just me enjoying it.
“It doesn’t look like what you see in the movies but I can totally do it.”
Shane explained that although he can’t move physically as non-disabled men would, this definitely doesn’t cause issues in the bedroom.
“I am more often that not, the initiator,” he continued.
“A non-disabled man might come up to Hannah and start rubbing her shoulders.
“I just say ‘hey, do you wanna go have sex?’
“I know that that probably shakes people as like ‘oh that must be not romantic’ but take our word for it. After I ask that, we are romantic.”
He goes on to explain that when they are in bed together, he asks Hannah to move his body in ways that mean he can touch her.
“When we are in bed together I can ask her ‘will you roll me towards you’ or ‘can you move my arm so I can reach your neck or cheek’.”
Hannah went into a little more detail.
“In general Shane uses his voice in ways that other people might just physically do something,” she said.
She also revealed that although Shane does ask her to move him into specific positions, they also have a secret language for these kinds of requests.
“We have shorthand for all of these things – he doesn’t say ‘can you move my legs under your legs’, we just know.
“I feel like I know his body and preferences as well as I know my own.”
The couple are so comfortable with each other that their relationship works perfectly and they completely trust one another.
“The best part about our relationship is that we have comfort with each other,” she added.
Due to his disability, Shane has often been made to feel like a burden, but with Hannah things are different.
He said: “I know that our life will continue to be hilarious and fun and full of adventure.
“I feel for the first time in my life that I’m not a burden because Hannah is wholly there for me and doesn’t feel burdened by me.”
After just one week the video has already racked up 237,590 views and 14,000 likes.
Many YouTube users were in awe of the couple’s relationship and took to the comments to express this.
“This couple is inspirational…not because of Shane’s disabilities, but because of the way they love, respect and communicate with each other. I just love them,” one person said.
“They are the most real couple there is. Shane has never been a burden and he has supported her emotional needs. So glad they were featured on this program,” another added.
While a third wrote: “I have followed Shane and Hannah for years. My husband is also in a wheelchair, and it’s so nice to see other interabled couples have deep meaningful love.”
This article originally appeared on The Sun and was reproduced with permission
Originally published as Trolls say my disabled husband can’t satisfy me but they’re wrong
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