Got a ‘dead bedroom?’ Here’s how to give it the kiss of life

In other words, the spark has been doused with cold water.

And if this feels like it may apply to you, you aren’t the only one. In fact, Google searches for ‘dead bedroom’ have increased by a whopping 233% over the past year.

So, how can you get back to the honeymoon phase where you can’t think about anything but ripping each other’s clothes off and getting down and dirty?

Relationship expert and author Lucy Beresford says first and foremost, it’s important to have an honest conversation.

‘The right amount of sex is different for every couple, so start by having conversations about the current situation to find out how your partner feels and to state your own needs gently,’ she tells Metro.co.uk.

‘Make sure you have these conversations when you both have time to give each other space to state your needs and listen to each other, and keep the focus positive and with no judgement or blame.

‘Explore whether your partner feels the lack of sex is because of a non-sexual relationship issue. For example if they feel you’re distracted, not making time for them, or not supporting them emotionally, you both need to work together on that issue first.’

Though you’re aiming for honesty, it’s important to consider the language that you’re using – it is not about blaming your partner.

Lucy advises: ‘Use ‘I’ phrases (“I have loved it when…”) rather than “you” phrases (‘you never/always…’). This can help avoid your partner feeling attacked or blamed.’

Now, this tip may seem rather formal but according to Lucy it’s all about making a plan of how you’re going to re-introduce the sexy spark.

It’s also important not to dive in head first. Rather, focus on small acts of intimacy.

Lucy says: ‘Baby steps as you both get back into the rhythm of sexual activity is more important than going straight for full-on intimacy.

‘Skin-on-skin contact, whether it’s kissing, hand-holding, a massage, or stroking, has a hugely beneficial effect on strengthening the bond of affection, without ramping up the expectation that it has to be about sex.’

Most importantly though, Lucy says to just focus on having fun and being intimate without the pressure to have an orgasm or full-blown penetrative sex.