The 31-year-old has written for some of the biggest names in pop (think Dua Lipa, Kylie Minogue and Kesha) and her own music racked up more than 265million Spotify streams in 2022 alone.
She’s also championed open discussions about sexuality, co-hosting BBC Sounds’ trailblazing podcast Building Queertopia, which explores how we can build a perfect, queer-friendly society in which everyone is free to be their authentic selves.
Today, though, Chelcee has taken on the role of Metro’s Agony Aunt and is advising readers on everything from friend-zoning to one-night stands.
Hey Chelcee, I’ve been dating my girlfriend for over a year now but feel like the spark is gone and I see her more as a friend. It’s a tricky situation as I was the first woman she dated after coming out and I’ve played a big role in her LGBTQ journey. Her family isn’t very supportive of her dating women and I’m scared that if I break up with her she’ll think I’m abandoning her, but I know our relationship has run its course romantically. Can you help?
I understand you don’t want to abandon her, but also don’t abandon yourself in any relationship.
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You sound like a great person and the first one is always really difficult – I remember mine!
But if the relationship has run its course, you’re only holding her back on that journey. You will always be a really important part of that, and who knows? Maybe you can be… friends with your ex?!
Communication is key – so I would definitely let her know how you’re feeling first and foremost.
This is always tricky, but it sounds like you know it’s done and we only get one life!
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Make the most of yours and let her make the most of hers.
She will thank you in the future for being honest and not wasting her time – good luck!
Hi Chelcee, I’ve never really thought much about my sexuality as I’ve been in a long-term relationship with a guy. Last year, we broke up after six years of dating and since then I’ve become really close to a former colleague who I recently reconnected with (she’s a woman and so am I). I’m starting to think the feelings I have for her might be more than platonic but have no idea how to tell her or anyone else in my life for that matter. Can you help?
These are always my favourite! The first time! I know how scary this can be.
It’s funny because I see it like a movie or TV show (whenever I would say I’ve never watched Game of Thrones people would scream at me ‘OMG I WISH I COULD UNSEE IT AND WATCH IT ALL OVER AGAIN’).
This is exactly how I feel when people tell me they’re starting to get ‘the feels’ for the first time.
It’s magical. Granted, it doesn’t always go to plan.
But that’s all part of the fun! I think this is a personal thing, and nobody can tell you when to tell her, who knows… maybe you never will.
But that’s solely down to what you want to do for the rest of your life… Are you gonna go for it? Or stand there and let life pass you by? I would just be honest.
The same goes for your friends and family.
Anyone who loves you and truly cares for you will be happy for you. It may take a bit of adjustment if they’re just used to you dating men.
But whoever my friends/family fall for – if they’re happy… I’m happy!
Hello Chelcee! I recently started using dating apps for the very first time after my best mate recommended I try them out (I’ve been single for a couple of years but am keen to meet someone). Last month, I met a woman for a drink and we ended up sleeping together. When I told my mate (the one who recommended I download the app) she seemed disappointed in me for having a one-night stand. I feel like she was trying to shame me and feel lousy about the whole situation. Can you help?
I literally went through this with one of my best friends just recently.
I’m pretty certain she wasn’t having a go at you to try to make you feel bad intentionally.
My money is on the fact she thinks you’re an amazing person and have too much to offer and holds you in high regard.
You say you’re keen to meet someone, which to me sounds like you are looking for something more serious?
Listen, you’re an adult – you can do what you want, when you want, with who you want.
But you asked for my advice, so you’re gonna get it!
I would date a little more, but maybe don’t sleep with them all on the first night.
You’re new to the online world. It can be fun. But it’s also full of people just wanting fun, nothing serious, and it’s important to set your boundaries and intentions before you enter this crazy online dating world!
I know many people who are now married thanks to Tinder and Bumble. For me, it’s never made it that far and most of my lasting relationships I’ve found actually meeting people in person.
Saying that, I have definitely had my fair share of online dates and rendezvous.
Enjoy it all, but make sure it’s on your terms!
P.S. every time I feel lousy I take my dog for a walk. If you don’t have a dog – there’s an app for that too… where you can legit rent a dog for the day!
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