Ask Amy: Sister-in-law is a persistent mis-namer

Dear Amy: I’m a 55-year-old man.

I legally changed my (first) name when I was 25 years old, mainly because I was the fourth “John” in my family, with many of us sharing the same name.

This change had nothing to do with gender or identity.

Traveling through Europe, I picked up a new, perfectly normal name (nothing wacky), and never looked back.

I have used this name personally and professionally for over 30 years.

Everyone in my life calls me by my chosen name — except my sister-in-law, “Wendy.”

She married my older brother when I was a teen and has become the matriarch of the family after our parents’ deaths.

My younger brother and sister-in-law recently welcomed the first grandchildren into the clan.

I was upset that Wendy objected when I referred to myself as “Uncle Chosen Name.”

She quickly corrected me, using my birth name, which I do not use in any capacity.

Her own children call me by my chosen name, so there is no way this child will grow up using my birth name.