Ask Amy: Mother-in-law never interferes, except when she does

Dear Amy: I never interfere with our children’s spouses’ business. I have a good relationship with both of our kids’ spouses.

Our daughter-in-law decided to go back to school about five years ago.

Our son financed her education with the hopes, I suspect, that she’d get a good-paying job and improve their financial situation.

She graduated, but has never secured a job.

She is in a medical field that requires a state license.

My husband and daughter both hold state licenses in their respective medical fields, and are listed on the state registry.

While browsing the registry recently, my husband noticed that our daughter-in-law’s name was not in the registry. He told our son, who was not aware of this.

She later explained to him that she’d “let her license lapse.”

My husband noted that if she’d ever secured a state license, her name would be on the registry and is kept there until death.

I told my son that I didn’t think she was being truthful with him.

He was upset with her, and now she won’t speak to us.