Recovering from infidelity in a relationship isn’t easy, but one celeb couple have apparently found something to keep them on track.
The answer, it seems, lies in the number seven.
Actress Amy Nuttall has reportedly given husband Andrew Buchan seven strict rules to follow after he allegedly cheated on her with a co-star.
According to the Sun, these seven rules include full access to each other’s phones, FaceTimes when one of them is working away, and absolutely no out of work contact with co-stars.
The couple are also apparently adopting the ‘777 dating technique’.
‘They will adopt the 777 approach which means every seven days you go on a date, every seven weeks you go away for the night and every seven months you go away on holiday just the two of you,’ a source told the paper.
But is the latter idea therapist-approved?
Psychotherapist and relationships author Lucy Beresford says she has heard of the 777 method in the past, but it’s certainly not a quick fix – especially in relationships where trust has been broken.
‘My concern is that 777 is the bare minimum!’ she tells Metro.co.uk. ‘Especially when there are other demands (work, kids, elderly parents), there needs to be even more effort to reconnect as a couple – and this means daily.
‘It’s about sending little phone messages, recognising each other’s love language and meeting that need (eg thoughtful gifts, hand-holding, or taking out the bins), and spending time each day to pause and breathe together, either when cleaning your teeth together at night, or as you wake up.’
In her TED Talk Infidelity: to stay or go…? she stresses that both sides need to examine what led to the affair and ask: what was missing?
‘It’s not just about going on dates or having a holiday,’ she tells us, ‘but really understanding whether every day you are being respected, cherished, or heard and seen.
‘This is more important – you can go on a date or a holiday with your partner, but if they spend the time disrespecting you or constantly on their phone, that’s not going to improve your relationship.’
We’re yet to hear confirmation from Amy and Andrew themselves on whether this technique is working for them. But if you’re giving a relationship another go after infidelity, we say more power to you. It takes courage, love and a whole leap of faith.
If the number seven helps, who are we to judge?
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